Bisexuality is finally getting the widespread attention it deserves. Although we still have a long way in educating people about its nuances, its sophisticated underpinnings, it’s good that we’re breaking some ground in bringing this misunderstood sexuality from the dark ages of obscurity to the limelight of today. But, it is also necessary that we extend this noble cause to other sexualities as well. Sexualities who people don’t even know are the thing – they go like “Pansexuality? Really? You’re not making this upright?” Yes, pansexuality is a real thing and it’s quite distinct from bisexuality.
Especially, outside the LGBT community, there’s rampant ignorance towards pansexuality.
Even me, I learned about pansexuality when I met a pansexual a couple of years ago. And being a bisexual, to be honest, it helped me understand my sexuality better. Knowing what pansexuality entails, it’s quite helpful in identifying your sexual orientation. Some bisexuals are pansexual, but due to a lack of awareness, they remain largely confused.
The Difference between Bisexuality and Pansexuality
To understand what it takes to date a pansexual, we must first try to understand how pansexuality differs from bisexuality.
The oversimplified definition of bisexuality is “sexually attracted to the mainstream genders: male and female. The definition of pansexuality, on the other hand, is “not limited in scope to gender or sexual activity”.
To make things clearer, pansexuality doesn’t just involve male and female in its mix, but all genders, whether they are Trans or non-binary. Bisexuality, on the other hand, limits itself to only two.
Now that we’ve cleared that out, let’s understand the differences that you’re bound to experience while dating a pansexual. These differences could come as a culture shock, and disorient you personally, if you’re not educated, so read on carefully.
The Difference Between Dating a Bisexual and a Pansexual
It’s not so easy to satisfy a pansexual
Yes, if you’re a bisexual, it’s not going to be easy for you to satisfy a pansexual. Pansexual is so diverse in their sexualities that no realm is ever taboo for them. But for someone who’s not a pansexual, going that far just might be “too much”. Which is okay, if you’ve talked this beforehand with your pansexual partner and set some boundaries.
For instance, if there’s something in bed that a pansexual is comfortable with and you’re not, make sure you clear it out.
They might see you differently
Some people have irresponsibly labeled pansexual as “gender blind”, which is true to some extent.
For starters, you might think that a pansexual sees you like your girlfriend, but that might not be true. They’re gender fluid, and their view of your gender might flicker almost periodically. From boy to girl, to trans to bi – the multivalence-y is uncanny.
While for some people, this might not be a problem, some people do like to have a clear idea of their place in someone else’s life. So, if you’re one of those people, make sure you have these minor things figured out.
Dating a pansexual is stepping into an undiscovered world of boundless opportunities, of terrifying curiosities. It’s a learning experience beyond your years, one that’s likely to change your life forever. It did change mine, for all the good reasons.