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For now, bisexuals dating apps is not a new concept. But this can actually be traced back to the 1990s. At the beginning of the Internet, there were many online chat rooms and other early social networking, which attracted a lot of queer folks. Those ways really make dating easier. In the history of the app, it is always closely related to smart-phones. In 2009 Grindr’s release changed the rules of the game for online dating sites. Since then, a lot of dating apps on google play and app store were free to download have emerged. Not much has been shared by articles of the experience of using bisexuals dating apps, so I want to share mine. Let’s begin, shall we?
1. Confidently show my sexual orientation.
First, I came out by choosing the “bisexuality” option instead of winking or chatting. Believe it or not, this way I have avoided many ‘crazy’ matches.
2. Profile pictures.
I chose to show a very normal frontal photo and declare my identity in this virtual cyberspace. And as far as possible in the configuration file to state my situation to ensure that no one will wink to me just to harass. Plus, you know most of those apps match users based on some algorithms so this way also let it provide better matches like common interest for me. Actually, it worked well.
I must admit that for a while I was satisfied with the approval and match in the dating app. It’s just because I am escaping the pain of just breaking up. That is really effective, online admirers will let you push, at least temporarily, the demons out of the mind.
4. I’m happy that I found the dating app really for bisexual people.
I have used Tinder, OkCupid, and even Gindr. But to be honest, those experiences are really not good. Although I am grateful, they have left me with several impressive and beautiful memories. But very happy, I stumbled upon the BiCupid. The people here are great, I mean, the matches I have met. This may be because of an algorithmic problem, maybe luck, who knows? But it is undeniable that I met my best companion here, which is enough for me to give it a five-star.
5. Do not care about the alleged judgment.
We know what stereotypes are left in bisexuality in society. People usually think that bisexuality is only a phase; you have to be straight or homo at the end. At the same time, whether in dating women or men, homosexuals do not want another gender in their own dating and straight people will think that bisexuality is just sexual promiscuity. In order to deal with this problem, I can only try to change the acquaintance’s ideas and choose the right dating partner. It is very difficult for individuals to confront society, but we should be ourselves. The reality is that bisexual women are plagued by more mental health problems than lesbians. That really sucks.
6. Some things don’t always happen.
In my experience, I have suffered some bad judgments and treatments, but I have more wonderful experiences. It depends on each step of my actions, including the preparation of the previous period. It’s hard to describe how I do this on this point, but stick to the principle that makes you feel comfortable, it will definitely help. In the past online matching, I would reject those relationships that I didn’t want to disclose. It turned out to be a very successful experiment that I have unknowingly proved to me and my friends that women don’t always need love to be intimate with someone.
7. Something for nasty straight men.
Bisexuals do not absolutely mean at the service of their sexual fantasy! Almost one-third matches of straight men even curious men would ask me if I was able to have threesomes just because the stereotypes of bisexuals especially to a female though I had been declared that in my profile. So, just pull them into blacklist if you really do not like this. That’s what I’ve done. Of course, if you are interested in then just do what you want.
Please leave your thoughts if you have.